It’s impossible to avoid the topic of sexual abuse on the news. The personal stories those brave young women shared about Larry Nassar go just so far beyond words, and I know many of us cannot watch these women speak without tears rolling down our cheeks. It’s incomprehensible. This story in particular has tore the face off of a subject that traditionally gets buried beneath the surface of society. As a mother of 2 small children, I need to know...how do I create the most open and honest dialogue with my little ones? How do I ensure that our relationship is built on trust and honesty, where they know that they can share anything and everything with me? How do I teach them that they must speak up and that their voices need to be heard? How do I even begin to address these topics when they are old enough to understand.
So many questions...so I started researching and have found some articles that might help all of us.
Bottom line: they must learn that it’s always OK to speak up if something doesn't feel right.
UGH! I’ve had enough of the yucky slush and icy sidewalks. Enough of taking what feels like a half hour every time I need to bundle the kids to get out of the house (or for that matter, coming back in and trudging slushy boot marks all over before feverishly reminding them that they take off their shoes)! Enough of feeling like blah with these layers and puffy winter jackets...Enough of the constant runny noses and this cough that has taken a liking to me for the last month! Enough of not being able to run outdoors because it’s below zero with the wind chill...ENOUGH. Just, ENOUGH.
I’m quite aware that I’m going through my annual winter blues. I’m making light of it here, but for many it is an actual condition known as SAD (seasonal affective disorder), a depression caused by changing seasons. Kids can suffer from this as well. So...let’s talk about some ways we can combat some of these sad feelings and make it to….the Spring!!!
Here are 10 ideas:
If your feelings of sadness are super intense, you should seek help. Hopefully, by practicing some of these things and whatever else makes you happy - you can beat the winter doldrums and rest assured, Spring is on the way!!! Just 2 more months left….
Have you ever heard of the Global Smile Foundation? It is a group of volunteers who make a tremendous, positive impact on families in need of surgical care, in places where access to this care is extremely rare. Their mission is to “bring first class surgical repair to patients throughout the developing world who suffer from congenital facial deformities”, the majority in need being children with cleft lips and palates. One generous entrepreneur and very dear friend, Mimi Banks, has donated her time to this agency for several years, traveling with the GSF team to South America twice a year to volunteer as a photographer to document their work. Let’s learn more about the Foundation and how meaningful Mimi and her team’s work is in this month’s interview.
SSP: As a veteran of social media, owner of a very successful social media agency and an accomplished photographer, how did your life path cross with GSF?
My longtime boss and mentor was actually friends with the founder, Dr. Usama Hamdan. Several years ago they were in need of a photographer. She suggested me. The rest is history!
SSP: What made you want to get involved with this cause in particular? Why is giving back so important to you?
Growing up, each Thanksgiving my cousin showed pictures of past medical missions. I was always very curious about what they actually were. And, being raised in a household where giving back is core to our ethics, I volunteered in many charities. What I noticed, is that while I helped several charities, I did not feel like I was making a difference. What I love about traveling with the Global Smile Foundation is that we are on the ground and actually helping people. Our presence makes a huge difference and has a strong impact.
SSP: I’d love to hear more about your experiences with these families in South America. Do you have one particular story that you can share with us, perhaps one that really moved and inspired you?
The people that I work with inspire me the most. This is a team of 20 medical professionals - doctors, nurses, hospital support. They leave their medical practices for a week to volunteer. I watch as the surgeons help as many people as they can, work so hard to help the children. They treat each child with such care and compassion. I'm in awe of their kindness, skill, and ability to make a difference in children's lives.
SSP: How do you approach these families - do you interact with them or quietly watch and photograph these life changing moments? What do you want your pictures to capture?
I do a lot of smiling. I don't speak Spanish very well, so I spend a lot of time smiling at the parents, cuddling their kids and trying to reassure them that their children are in good hands. I capture pictures of the children before and after their surgery. The transformation is incredible. In fact, I often show the older kids a picture of themselves, just out of surgery...so they can see! My role is to document the process, capture the patients' journey and help tell the Global Smile Foundation's story through images.
SSP: What is it about these missions that you find most gratifying?
The smile on the mothers' faces and the tears in their eyes when they see their child for the first time after surgery is life-changing.
SSP: How does one get involved? How do we learn how we can help support, whether it be joining a mission or donating clothing and funds?
The best way to get involved is to donate money to: www.gsmile.org. They could use the support to provide even better care to their patients.
Mimi Banks as more than 15 years of experience in the beauty industry in the US, France, and Israel. She spent the majority of her career at L’Oréal, where she led social media for Lancôme. She has proven success building, optimizing and implementing social media strategies, engagement tactics and plans to drive online brand engagement and reach. Mimi Banks is a passionate, forward thinking and results-driven digital and social marketer. http://www.mimibsocial.com/
Many of us share some of the same New Year’s resolutions, like trying to cut down on sugar, going to the gym more frequently, trying to maintain a better work/life balance, and so on. As parents, I think there are a few important New Year’s Resolutions that can benefit not only us, but directly impact our children in a positive way as well! Here are my personal top 10 resolutions:
Taking a REAL break from electronics: My goal is to not pick up my phone, check work emails or go on the computer for any reason for a solid hour when I get home from work and pick up the kids. This is going to be OUR time. Of course there will be the occasional emergency that will need immediate tending to, but for the most part this should be doable. And, furthermore, limiting this until the children are in bed. Most things should be able to wait until the next morning, and I need to constantly remind myself of this. My children need my full attention (and I need theirs)!
Monthly date night with the husband: This is something that we talk about often but don’t act upon. Sure, it can be expensive to hire a babysitter….and many nights I just want to be in my pajamas by 8pm, but the negatives to not spending QT time with your partner is far greater than any of these burdens. I need to work on maintaining our connection, and remember we were best friends for many years before becoming parents. And i don’t only mean dinner. I want to go to more concerts too, something we rarely do now. To be proactive, I’m going to set up a date night for first 2 months this week!
More 1-on-1 time with each child: I often find my time with multiple children being pulled from one to another, or breaking up squabbles. Or, more than anything I let them play together and watch from the sidelines. As a working mother who is in the office during weekdays, I miss that 1-on-1 connection. Recently, I took my 5 year old for a hot chocolate, and we sat outside at a fire pit - really connecting with each other. Making chocolate mustaches, talking about school and her friends...without her crazy 2 year old brother throwing a ball at us. It was such a beautiful day and I plan on doing this a lot more in the New Year!
Working on my patience: I’ve never been one to have a lot of the “p” word, it’s something I’ve always had to work on. Now as a mother, I see that more and more. I need to take a deep breath and keep a better perspective. I am not a perfect parent, and my kids are not perfect kids. And this is OK. I want to refrain from raising my voice as quickly as I sometimes do, and take a step back and realize that whatever it is probably isn’t such a big deal!
Take better care of myself: Often with work, children and the house it’s very easy to sideline any of your self-care needs. This is not OK. This means I’m going to make sure I have my weekend jogging sessions and make that hair appointment more frequently than once every 5-6 months. I’m going to treat myself to a manicure for no reason every once and awhile.
Do a massive purge at the beginning of each season, starting right at the end of the year here. Go through every toy and our basement which is packed with who knows what. Go through old children’s clothing - label them and donate them to a veterans group or refugee families. Plan on a tag sale for the Spring and include a little lemonade stand for our little girl. Donate money earned to a meaningful cause. Get her involved with the donations so she understands how important it is to help families in need.
Read a book!!!! Or several!!! I have zero time to read. The free time I have is maybe an hour after kids are down and I’ve straightened up/prepared for the next day to do anything to relax. This hour is usually spent in front of the TV, relaxing to a Walking Dead or Game of Thrones episode. I completely tune out. The only time I have read is when we’re on our annual summer vacation - and one book a year is NOT cutting it. What about changing a couple of these nights to getting to bed earlier and cozying up with my new Stephen King trilogy - which I’ve been staring at for months with anticipation?
Laugh more and stress less - be PRESENT. Being present was already mentioned but I think it deserves its own section. Stop being distracted. When 2 year old is dancing like a chicken and running around the house, I should do the same with him. When my daughter is drawing, sit down and draw WITH her. When one of them is upset, really listen to what is upsetting them instead of trying to make them stop crying and get over it so quickly. Really be there in that moment.
Stop making the same meals every week and get more creative. I need to put a little effort into finding new dinners that our entire family can enjoy together. I’m a big proponent of only one meal every night, no separate dinners for the kids. Which of course can be limiting! But, there are other options out there and I need to find them. Roasted chicken, pasta and quesadillas cannot be a weekly occurrence for the next 10 years!
Stop trying to do everything: I recently hired a house cleaner. I thought I could do it all, and I finally came to the conclusion that I cannot. Waking up at 4am to clean the bathrooms before children wake up is no longer making any sense to me. I want to take that lesson and take it further next year. I’m going to write a list of things that I need help with, share with my husband, and ask that he be in charge of those things. Perhaps it’s some of the laundry, or helping make snacks or lunch for our daughter in kindergarten. So many mothers take on everything. It always made me feel so accomplished to take on so much, now I realize how silly that is. If i want to be more present, more happy in general...I need to let go.
Many people take it for granted that firemen, doctors, jeans, and the color blue are an exclusive boys’ domain; while princesses, skirts and dresses, and shades of pink are meant for girls. However, there are some parents who are challenging these fixed beliefs by practicing gender-neutral parenting.
In an interview with the Independent, Megan Perryman from the Let Toys Be Toys campaign said, “Gender-neutral parenting means allowing your children to play with a range of toys and wear the clothes they feel comfortable in.” She explained that this style allows kids to enjoy their childhood. She also clarified that gender-neutral parenting does not mean that girls should not be allowed to play with dolls anymore, saying that they can do so as long as they understand that those are not the only types of toys available to them.
One clear manifestation of gender-neutrality is through clothing. Instead of following the mindset that blue is only for boys and pink is exclusively for girls, gender-neutral parenting provides children with the opportunity to choose what clothes they want to wear. John Lewis made headlines in the UK for removing gendered labels on their children’s clothing line in their stores. Vogue mentioned that it was part of their bid to reduce gender stereotyping. However, the department store is far from being the first clothing retailer to create and/or promote unisex clothes for children. An article by Gurgle featured Kate Pietrasik, who is the sole founder of unisex kids’ clothing label Tootsa. She said that dressing children in gendered clothing not only affects the way other people see kids, but also the way they see themselves. She surmised that the gender divide in terms of clothes is nothing more than a marketing ploy to make money off of customers. They may be unconsciously forced to purchase different sets of clothes for children of different genders. She explained that children’s apparel must take their active lifestyle into consideration, as well as their love of color without leaning towards either sex.
Beyond letting kids enjoy their childhood, the aim of gender-neutral parenting is to open more doors to children. In effect, parents are allowing their kids to follow their own paths, instead of letting society’s pre-conceived notions to dictate what they can and can’t do. This also means teaching kids to have a more open mind in terms of societal roles. For instance, Lisa Cohn told Parents.com that they avoid gender stereotyping through instilling an idea that any task can be accomplished by anyone in the family. For instance, she and her husband do not say that women are the ones bearing the responsibility of cleaning up in the kitchen, while the men should mow the lawn. In doing so, she and her spouse are preventing their children from believing that some tasks can only be performed by one gender.
In the future, it can have implications on what sort of career they would want to pursue, as well as what lives they will lead as adults. Instead of letting society tell them who they should be, they will likely make choices based on who they really are and who they want to be.
AUTHOR BIO: MilkForMom_RJ is a first-time mom who believes that all children should be given equal opportunities, regardless of their gender or race. When she is not writing, she makes crafts and up cycled toys for her baby.
Photo courtesy of NYBG. Photo by Robert Benson Photography.
It’s December and the holidays are here!!! Can you even believe it?! Here is our annual round-up of holiday happenings in Brooklyn and in our neighboring boroughs. From a menorah lighting on 5th Ave, to cheering on runners decked out in holiday gear at the Jingle Bell Jog….to catching a family Broadway show, there should be something for everyone! Happy Holidays to all!
Through January 15th, The Holiday Train Show at NY Botanical Gardens: Enchanting model trains zip through a display of 150 landmarks, each re-created with bark, leaves, and other natural materials—all under the twinkling glow of the Enid A. Haupt Conservatory. Marvel at G-scale locomotives humming along among familiar sights such as the Brooklyn Bridge, Statue of Liberty, and Rockefeller Center on nearly a half-mile of track. This year’s exhibition showcases Midtown Manhattan’s iconic skyscrapers and other architectural wonders, featuring new replicas of the Empire State Building, Chrysler Building, General Electric Building, and St. Bartholomew’s Church.
December 2nd @ 9:30am, The Jingle Bell Jog Pace at Prospect Park: Come cheer on all the runners dressed up as elves, santas and reindeer (or sign up last minute - there are still open spots)! This festive family favorite is more than just a road race, it's also a celebration and a fundraiser for NYRR's youth programs.
December 2nd @ 4pm, Tree Lighting at Greenwood Park: Event begins 4:30, lighting is at 6:30. Free wreath making, photos with Santa and his elves AND a free toy for each kid!
December 2nd and 3rd @ The Brooklyn Historical Society, FAD Market: This holiday season, find the perfect gift for everyone at FAD Market – a roving Fashion, Art and Design pop-up marketplace. Stroll through the gorgeous Romanesque Revival building of Brooklyn Historical Society and meet over 40 thoughtfully selected independent designer makers showcasing handcrafted jewelry, apparel, bath and body care, tableware and home furnishings. Discover unique holiday gifts and snag one-of-a-kind stocking stuffers at FAD Market this winter!
December 18th @ 4:30pm, Menorah Lighting on 5th: Come light the Menorah with #theother5th with Chabad Park Slope and Lullaby Baby. There will be donuts, latkes and music.
Various Locations/Times: MEET SANTA!!! Click here for a link of local establishments that are hosting meet and greets with the jolly man himself.
Ongoing at The Lefrak Center at Lakeside, Ice Skating: What better way to celebrate the season than with ice skating (followed up by a hot chocolate at the Bluestone Cafe, of course)!
Ongoing on Broadway: How about enjoying a family Broadway Show, like “Elf”, “A Garfield Christmas” or “Christmas Spectacular”?! Create a memory that will last a lifetime.
December 30th, 12-5pm @ Museum of Natural History, Kwanza 2017: The Museum’s 2017 Kwanzaa event is a celebration of African-American heritage that is rooted in seven principles known as Nguzo Saba, which promote unity, culture, and community development. The program will feature a live musical performance, an overview of the Kwanzaa principles, and marketplace that showcases local artisans from the African-American community.
And don’t forget the Dyker Heights Christmas Lights! Take the D/M trains to 18th Ave or the R train to 86th Street. Suggestion: try going between 6:30 and 8:30pm on the weekends for the best of the lights and displays!
When I think about what I miss most about Brooklyn, the Amy Miles singalongs definitely fall in my top 5. Every week we’d meet our friends for a half hour of dancing, singing, bubbles and lots and lots of smiles and laughter. Her energy, ability to connect with the little ones on such a meaningful level and her unbelievably beautiful voice has the ability to light up anyone’s day - EVEN the crankiest 2 YO. Oh, and did I mention she had a show on PBS, she’s performed and collaborated with Amy Poehler and They Might be Giants, sang on Jimmy Kimmel.. just to mention a few of her many, many achievements. And, most importantly, she’s one of the coolest human beings you will ever meet. Let’s get to know more about Amy in this month’s interview!
SSP: We want to know a little about you. How did you become such a
popular children’s music artist? What path led you to this point?
Well it's been quite a road to kid music. After years of performing and composing for mostly adults, I had the opportunity to star in a PBS Kids show called Lomax the Hound of Music. It was a great experience and definitely put the idea in my head. After that I continued work as a composer for TV and film as well as perform as a solo artist. Then came baby. After having kids the stars aligned and it just seemed to make sense in my new life as a Mom. It's been awesome and rewarding and works with my "Mom schedule"!!
SSP: For parents with older children, they might recognize you from
“Lomax the Hound of Music” on PBS. You’ve performed and collaborated
with Amy Poehler and created the underground show “Soundtracks Live”
at the Upright Citizen’s Brigade Theater. You’ve become every Park
Slope toddler’s BFF. What would you say is your most important
Well if I don't say my kids I'd be crazy right???
SSP: How has being a mom of two influenced your path as a performer?
Well I'm much sleepier, so no more late night shows for me!! But also I guess I'm a bit less worried about perception and more concerned with connection and enjoying the moment. I love being present with the kids that come hear me. Feels good in the heart.
SSP: We were lucky enough to have you perform at our daughter’s 4 YO
birthday, which will go down as the best birthday ever and I’ll never
top it. Are you still doing special events, and how can someone get
in touch with you?
Yes!!! Anyone can reach out for kids parties and events through my website amymilesmusic.com
SSP: Your album “Ready Let’s Go!” is played almost daily in this
house. Can you please give us a little insight into how that album
came to be? Where can we find it? Any new albums or projects on the
The first kid's record came together pretty quickly and it was really fun. And then I had my second son and I slowed down a bit and I REALLY need to get the next record out ASAP!! Hoping for a late Spring release.
SSP: For those who are unfamiliar with your sing-alongs, can you tell
them a little about what to expect?
I like to read the room at each sing along, so sometimes it's more structured and has an actual music class feel, and other times it's more casual. But regardless there are always bubbles, kitties and songs!!!!
SSP: Where can we find you and when?
Currently I am at Lark Cafe on Sundays at 10am and 11am and at Parkette Brooklyn on Thursdays at 11am.
Keep updated on all things Amy Miles: amymilesmusic.com.
With so many people in need this holiday season, it’s difficult to decide where to donate our time and funds. We’ll try to make that a little easier for you. We’ve selected a few local organizations so you can plan on where you want to dedicate your “giving thanks” this year, as well as how you can incorporate your family when giving. After all, some of our most meaningful memories as a family can come from these moments where we work together helping those who need it most!
Help fight hunger in NYC:
Help keep NY’ers warm this winter season:
Organize a company volunteer event:
Help give back as a family:
Kristina Gibb is a local Park Slope mom and member of our SSP family who happens to be a very accomplished and talented professional photographer. Specializing in portraits, she captures intimacy, new life and family in a way that feels so organic and “ethereal” as others have described. Let’s get to learn more about Kristina and her fabulous photography in this month’s interview!
SSP: Your collection of portraits all have a very unique style and feel to them - they feel intimate and have a very natural, calming and dream-like quality to them. Can you tell us more about your style, and how you are able to attain this? Who are your influences?
A good portrait starts by putting people at ease. Within the first minute or two, I like to get into the mode of making pictures together, so there ample time for creativity and collaboration. It’s a two way street between photographer and subject. Any discussion about the photos happens as we are in the flow of it together. Especially when children are involved, it’s best to just get started, because kids live in the moment, they don’t conceptualize about the photo, and they typically cannot imagine what they look like through the lens. It’s all about the interaction between the two of us, and the family, and that is where the magic happens.
As a teenager, when I started photography, I was influenced by family snapshots. I was obsessed with looking at our family photo albums, and spent a lot of time trying to “redo” my parent’s albums they hadn’t touched in years. Holding the little prints in my hands, and getting to assemble them made me fall in love with the medium. In college I was influenced by photographers like Diane Arbus, Rineke Dijkstra, and then later, Loretta Lux. I marveled at Lux’s color palette, and the feeling of serenity and wonder I felt while looking into the scenes she created with her subjects, all of them children.
SSP: It looks like you’ve been doing this for a long time! When did you find your passion for photography, and how has it evolved over the years?
It is funny, for my whole childhood and into my teens, I wanted to act in the theater. I got my first job at 15-years-old at a children’s theater. I relished the spontaneity of entertaining kids, and getting to be on stage alongside them. I was audience participation, so the kids had no idea what they have gotten themselves into, really, or what is going to happen next. I equate that to being in a photo session with their family! Having a background in theater also gave me confidence in directing people, as well as a deep appreciation of the idea of a tableau, and that understanding elevates the photo from being a snapshot. In high school, after 4 years of studio art, painting, and mixed media, I decided to sign up for photography, and I never looked back.
SSP: What is it about photographing people that you enjoy the most? What’s the greatest satisfaction for you?
The most satisfying aspect of photographing people is the connection you make for that brief amount of time. While we are all together, it’s almost like a dance - I am directing them, but I am also getting feedback by having to read their body language and expressions, as well as read the nuances of the relationships between each participant in the session. Based on those observations, I might change the composition on the photo right there on the spot. We work together for an hour, but then I take what we made together home, and proceed to edit the photos for several days, or weeks, even. Being able to make sometime for them that will make them happy, and they might even hang in their home brings me an immeasurable feeling of pride and gratitude for the practice.
SSP: I understand you are a mother of two. How does being a mom help influence your photography?
The answer to this question is simple: I know what kinds of photos moms want of their kids. Websites like Pinterest and Facebook are good resources also, as you can see the types of photos other parents and photographers are sharing, and what is getting reactions. Also, my kids are 5 and 10. So, I still remember the younger ages, but I am getting good at relating to the older set, too.
SSP: For the photography sessions with babies and toddlers, it must be challenging to capture certain moments. How do you approach these shoots with both the subject and the parents?
The first step in interactions with little babies and toddlers is patience. Patience with the children, obviously, but also with the parents. There is no time of my life I felt more imbalanced than when I had a little baby. I call on those remembered feelings when relating to the family, because it was rough, and I just imagine to myself that this family is going through the same thing right now. It helps. Toddlers are tricky because they can be very triggering to parents, and they are fast. If the parents see that I am down for whatever, and I am okay with what this kid has to dish out, then they relax, and everyone can have a good time.
SSP: What do you think sets you apart from other portrait photographers?
I would like to think I am good when working with children. I think when I can relate to the child, then the parents see me as safe and fun, and they loosen up and become super fun with their kids as well. Fun family photos are the best family photos, because they convey that sense of joy families will often feel while relating with each other in private moments, but are harder to materialize in front of the camera and an almost complete stranger! Those skills work in the moment, but I also think I edit differently than other photographers in post-processing. You mentioned the dreamlike quality - that is what I strive for in my process. It just elevates the moment that much more, and gives the photo a certain “je ne sais quoi” that will stand out in the Facebook feed, and look beautiful as a print.
SSP: Do you have a most memorable shoot or photography story that you’d like to share with us?
Since my youngest was born, I started a yearly tradition with the moms who were in my mommy group where I take photos of the kids around their birthday holding some kind of prop with the number of the age that they are turning. This fall, I carved a “5” in the side of a pumpkin for the kids to hold. It’s very meaningful to have a visual record of these kids from the age of one! I know some of the families have made a print to hang every year. We’ll see how much longer we can keep it going!
It’s almost trick or treat time! I don’t know about you, but we always struggle to find the perfect family costume (we like to dress up together with a common theme). Every year it obviously falls at the same time, but every year I find myself in stressed out last minute mode figuring out what we’ll be. I think part of the reason is that I take the day and dressing up VERY seriously – so I put a lot of pressure on myself! Last year my husband and I went as fisherman, who had just caught a crab named Sebastian (our son) and a mermaid named Ariel (our daughter). Before our son was born we dressed up as farmers and our daughter was our little sheep! It makes her so happy to see both of her parents in costume, she thinks it’s hilarious. And our son (now almost 2), will surely get a kick out of it next month.
In my search to find creative family costumes, I found certain sites that are helpful for brainstorming:
I thought it might also be useful to share my thought process as to how I narrow down ideas for our family costume. If you have a baby, what are your or your partner’s interests? What do you love?
Are you obsessed with monkeys? How about zoo keepers, monkey parents, or you could be trees (and the monkey is hanging on you)!
Are you an avid basketball fan? Mascot, coaches, cheerleaders and of course the baby star basketball player.
Tennis? A tennis ball, tennis players (add the curly wig and 70’s headband for added pizazz)
Do you love lobster? You could be chefs, fisherman, people with lobster bibs and forks/crackers. Your little nugget is your lobster!
Is Ghostbusters your favorite movie of all time? The ghostbusters, a baby ghost and a Stay-Puft man (they even make a ghostbuster dog costume if you’re getting your dog involved)!
Game of Thrones? Mother of Dragons/Khaleesi and little baby dragons….dad can be Khal Drogo or Jon Snow.
If it’s a toddler or older child, think about what their interests are.
Train: conductor, no crossing sign, different parts of train including middle and caboose.
Legos: different colored blocks, different lego characters.
Pizza: slice of pizza, delivery guy, a pizza box.
Where the Wild Things Are: Max and some of the silly monsters.
Firetrucks: a little fireman, a fire hydrant, a house on fire (put a big box around your torso and decorate as a building on fire or you can just be flames). The ideas are endless!
So what will we be? Well… so far she has expressed interest in being a doctor (I thank Dr. Cao and the awesome staff at SSP for her interest in all things doctors and science)! She has a scrubs outfit, daddy and mommy could be nurses and her baby bro could be wheeled in the stroller dressed up as the patient. Or, he will be a “baby doctor”, which she thinks is super funny. Another family idea we’ve toyed around is Moana, baby brother is Maui, dad and mom are kakamoras (cave-dwelling goblins) OR Tui and Sina, Moana’s mom and dad. Who knows! But one thing is for certain, we will look very silly and have a night to always remember.